“Facing challenges managing boys’ school schedule & tuition sessions! Where to find play time?”
In respond to my “grouse”, a treasured friend gave me a reality check and shared some wisdom…
“This is Reality of Singapore. They have to manage and learn to destress while juggling all. After PSLE is transition to secondary school issues. Never does it stop. Keep weekends light. Keep family time fun and exciting for them to look for…ward too. Its like a pit stop in and F1 race. Make school breaks count. Minimal studying on weekends and holidays. In Sec the key is to find an CCA that he will enjoy. His dad really enjoyed Scouting. …. So get them to learn to enjoy what they do. Help them cultivate good friends, they make “hardship” bearable. Parents listen to their stress stories, but don’t give them solutions, guide them to find their own way. Giving them advice and telling them what to do adds stress. Encourage them in their successes. Encourage leadership development, that will give them purpose, diminishing the pain of stressors.”
In this society, it is so easy to ‘fall-in’ and follow the crowd. And so hard to “pull-back” .
Listening & guiding them in making their own decisions are skills which need to be honed!! And HB & I are still working hard on these!!
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